Lis Carpenter

New York to See What You're Made of...

2011-10-10T18:45:00.000-07:00

So, I came to New York and found out that I was a spineless, critical, cowardly, manic, jerk...generally speaking. Not to mention, highly delusional about my level of skill. Now, three and a half months later I can see so clearly where my limitations are and, more importantly, how to fix them.

There are a few reckless things that I have to do before this month is over. One is to run a seminar (at least that's in the workings.) And, another is to get off my laurels and ask for help with my business. Something terrible and exciting happened recently. I discovered I had an excellent credit score. Part of me wonders is a monetarily responsible person has stolen my information and is working in behind the scenes with it.

But, another part of me knows that I have been responsible with my insane monthly bills. I have the opportunity to get a business loan, open an office in Manhattan, spend, spend, spend away. But, a part of me just wants to hire someone else to lead the way. Maybe, I think to myself, maybe, I should just borrow enough to pay the salary of a new business graduate to run the office.

I don't trust myself. I have had enough time here to tell. The way of things is to forget that every second matters. The way of things, in this house, with these people that I live with, is to put things off as if we were guaranteed more than this moment. If only I could motivate myself again. I don't really want anything much. I'm okay with just being okay.

Travel...climbing...recognition...I'm thinking of things I love that I no longer am willing to work hard for. I am existing right now, no fire...last year, I gave my being to be with someone. Now, that someone isn't in my life, and things just seem pointless, unexciting. And, I just don't know how to get that spark or zest for life back.

Gen. 2:18b "It is not good for man to be alone:"

Well, I don't feel better after writing that, and I haven't discovered what lights me up, so I'll just get back to work.

Random Stuff About What I'm Doing

2011-08-16T17:00:00.000-07:00

Just found out that everyone is entitled to a free credit report yearly from annualcreditreport.com. There was a phone number I was given too, but I did not catch it.

I'm sort of random right now, but I'm really not happy with the direction I'm going currently, but I know why now. After watching ET's video today, I remember that my real dream is to be a best-selling author. I've had this dream for years. I let my father's snide remarks about starving authors hinder me. But, I remember hearing that when you become an adult, you can't blame your parents anymore for stopping you from reaching you potential.

I've been having an off day, and yesterday was amazing. I hate that! So, I think that maybe I need music for real for my brain to function properly. It helps my writing flow somehow. Maybe, I'll dedicate much of my time in the mornings to writing a book. Something else I remember today thinking: Man is Sufjan Stevens one productive young man. I wonder why it is so natural to some. Or maybe it is just focus. Laser focus on music making.

Big Move - Florida to New York

2011-05-26T09:30:00.000-07:00

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I actually made this move in 2007. I was in Brooklyn getting settled for about three months, when I got a phone call from Florida. My aunt, who I was staying with, told me to sit down. I learned that one of my older brothers had been shot and killed. She suggested that I move back to Florida, because my family needed me. It's been a most miserable time since then, and I have witnessed how bitterness can transform people in to cold, merciless, creatures. I am talking about my immediate family. Two of my dear family members are vampires.

I decided to make a road trip out of the drive up. I have a lot of family along the east coast, and I want to them to know that I love them, even though I don't call nearly enough.

So, now, I'm headed to Queens for a spell while searching for a place in Manhattan. This is a really funny deal, because everyone keeps telling how expensive New York is, and that is the least of my worries. I am just reluctant to move because of pollution (noise and the dirty air) are not my thing. I prefer wide open spaces. But, I promised myself that I would join a rock climbing club when I arrived to offset the sadness from a lack of greenery. Yes, pollution and the sidewalk jungle make me sad.

I'm moving there with my long-time friend from Seoul. And we have a sort of funny relationship. We only see the best in each other. And, so I have this expectation that we probably won't be able to live with each other (just based on our similar flaws). But, she's hopeful, so we shall see. I'm getting job offers like mad, and I know part of it is to distract me from building my company. But, at the same time, it is so tempting to take them, because I don't want my friend to have to work and go to school.

I also have this feeling that I'm moving just in time to miss my stalkers that are surely closing in on me. I never thought that I would have stalkers, but I do, and wouldn't you know, they are insistent on meeting me. I...guess I'm reaping what I sowed (i.e. celebrity stalking is bad).

He Loves Me Not

2011-01-29T03:00:00.000-08:00

Well, since this blog is something like a journal, I think I'll write about this experience. Although, I will protect the identities of the parties involved by using fictitious names. Let me begin with, I am the type that crushes easily. Maybe the type that people say are in love with being in love more than the characters themselves.

Anyway, so for the past five years I have been in a friendship that I thought would develop into a romantic relationship. I like everything about the guy. He likes me. It took me years to fully express my feelings, and his response was, "It's okay." It's okay, as in, We can get through this. It doesn't have to affect our friendship. So, I spent the last couple of weeks trying to persuade him that we should date. And he spent the last few weeks trying to persuade me that our friendship was worth more than this try at love.

Now, this guy has told me that he loves me many times...as a friend. And there have been sweet words exchanged and the like. I've never been so open with a guy before, not even former boyfriends. So, it was an absolute shock to me when he turned me down. I told him our friendship was doomed in the long run anyway, because I couldn't keep talking to an old flame after I got into another relationship or married (just isn't right). He didn't respond, or he was too slow to respond.

I was feeling so sad and confused about all of this, but I had some real catharsis after speaking to a friend that had gone through a few more break ups. She said she always cuts the old boyfriend off. Now, this guy, we'll call him Ted, was not a boyfriend, but he was the perfect guy in my mind. So, I broke off contact with Ted and it's the strangest thing. These last few days have been some of the lightest and free-est days in my life. I felt a huge load lifted after deleting his number and email and Facebook and...

Now, that area of my life is just open. I'm single and looking again. Feels strange.

For the Love of Numbers

2010-12-10T12:13:00.000-08:00

So, this is what's going on lately. I worked hard as hell in order to go on this trip to Taipei and Taichung right now.

That's right. I'm writing this post right now from a cold rented room in Taipei. If a place has Internet that is usually enough to keep me happy.

So, it seemed simple enough. I was selling my old textbooks on Amazon which was bringing in anywhere from 50-120 a week. I was working with my old sales position with Vector Marketing selling knives. Yes kids knives. I was also going to auction off some stuff on eBay, but that never happened. Oh yeah, and I was babysitting for a couple of days a week (...that was the hardest job.)

A MOMENT OF ILLUMINATION

Anyway, I came to a giant new awareness while doing all of this. I realized that multiple streams of income rocks. The product with Tellman was finally finished up, so I decided to work while on vacation. I'm not working the sales job for the money. And I will be forever in the testing mode for anything I market online. I'm working for the experience, so I'm enjoying it a lot. (THANK YOU ROBERT KIYOSAKI!)

Hmmm...that wasn't completely coherent. Basically, I am saying that I am at a pinnacle of understanding as a result of this mad rush to travel to Taiwan. And I can see nothing but good stuff for my future because the sales job is all about knowing your closing ratio and staying at an acceptable number of appointments to make a good number of sales.

I'm taking this knowledge to the online world. KNOW YOUR NUMBERS. I will be getting the squeeze page and everything set up by a freelancer while I am out here and who knows what will happen from there. The numbers that I ran away from in school have now become my best friends:)

How To Become Social - A Case For Character Countdowns

2010-07-24T03:07:00.001-07:00

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UPDATE: COLIN has the book available for only 99 cents at http://www.ebookling.com

My link from howtobecomesocial.com no longer links to the sales page on Colin's site. Thanks!

So, I went through the trouble of buying this domain http://www.howtobecomesocial.com and learning video marketing and what not and creating this promo video, way late, for Colin Wright's e-book masterpiece of social genius Networking Awesomely, and then I do all my research and stuff to make this video promo thing and then YouTube is like, uh no, your description is tooo long. Julie! You told me to put an article in my description box with multiple links! YouTube say, nooo! I guess if it had been a 300 word article like normal traffic articles that would have been okay, but by the time I was done researching the first page of Google on becoming social, I had a three page essay. I'm testing some techniques from another mentor of mine.

P.S. YouTube might must hate me. Why all the screenshots with my eyes closed! Huh? Why YouTube Why.

Oh, just so all my long hours of work don't go to waste, I'm posting my monstrous essay of an article here. How to Become Social <--link to the video GET THE SKILLS NOW! HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM {how to become social} "how to become social" Honestly, if it wasn’t awesome. I would not have spent all this time researching the rest of the stuff and making this video. I have too many more important things to do. But, I’m about spreading the good stuff in the world and giving my honest opinion. A group of contributors from wikiHow write How to Become Sociable:
Jul 19, 2010 ... wikiHow article about How to Become Sociable. ... You can be more sociable this way, and around a lot more people. 9. Be an optimist. ...
www.wikihow.com/Become-Sociable

I have to say they had some good tips that weren’t all on all the other sites like make eye contact; talk to others around you; remember the E word: Empathy, remember the fun; Put in the effort, always try to accept others’ offers and invitations and be with them; don’t be yourself all the time; mix up your routine; be an optimist; and compliment people. After reading the best of what this group of brilliant minds came up with, I found myself wondering if they threw the steps together or if they really put some thought into it. As a student I would need to have 11 or 12 other resources to balance the lack of research on this one, but it’s a nice start. If you would like to see that a balance of research and practice look like, click the link below.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

Christ of succeedsocially.com | Free social skills advice for adults writes:
Why You Need To Directly Practice Your Social Skills And How To Do It • Indirectly Become More Socially Successful By Improving Yourself As A Person ...
www.succeedsocially.com/

Okay, honestly this site looks like a great resource. I was just scared of it because it’s so HUGE! It’s like trying to read through an entire set of encyclopedias that aren’t even organized in alphabetical order. Yeah, this is the only site that I can say that they author might actually be pretty cool because he has a blog, and most people that keep blogs have something valuable to say. He was offering free social skills coaching for a minute there on July 19th, but he just closed the doors on that one. But, why do I say he’s pretty cool? Why is the site great, falling short of awesome? Well after visiting, I still have no idea who this guy is. Want to see what an awesome site looks like?

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

Glamorgirli on Answerbag asks How can I make myself become more social around people? I always feel so nervous and stupid around new people.

Some of the great advice she received was:
1) Practise... personally i have had the same trouble before. Very shy and nervous around new people. Go hang out with a group of close friends and ...
2) Ask a lot questions
3) Get a job in retail
4) Smile
5) Calm down, have a beer
6) Read a long scholarly article written in 3rd person by a professor of psychology
7) Rip your hair out because that article is 50 pages long
8) try being around people more often…go where people gather—by yourself!
www.answerbag.com/q_view/187834

Sorry for the sarcasm about the lengthy multi-post probably very informative (and boring and confusing) article that someone posted on there. The other tips are pretty good. I give this site 5 stars for combining lame with awesomeness! If you’d prefer pure awesomeness, click the link below.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

A few brave souls ask How do I become more social on Yahoo Answers:
Apr 21, 2007 ... A bit of background info, I've recently turned 18 and I'm in my last ... yes it is awkward but you have to decide whether you are up to and can ...
answers.yahoo.com › Social Science › Psychology
Apr 21, 2007 ... A bit of background info, I've recently turned 18 and I'm in my last ... yes it is awkward but you have to decide whether you are up to and can ...
answers.yahoo.com › Social Science › Psychology - Cached - Similar
How do I become more social / make more friends in college ...? - 1 post - Jul 6, 2010
How can I become more social (starting college in August)?? - 2 posts - Jun 12, 2010
How do I become more social and open-minded?? - 5 posts - Apr 28, 2010
How do I become more social at parties?? - 2 posts - Apr 21, 2010
Can Feliway help my cat become more sociable?? - Nov 4, 2009
How can a person become more sociable?? - Aug 23, 2007
How do I become more sociable?? - Nov 11, 2006
How do you become more social and less shy? How can i be more ...? - Jun 11, 2006

I say that they are brave because I’ve noticed that some people just take advantage the anonymous nature of the web and blast people with already obviously low self esteem. I cringe to read some of the comments, but I don’t jump in most of the time, because bullying others is entertainment. But, how do you not end up being the sad person that gets blasted with negative comments in the first place? Don’t take the problems with your social like to strangers on the web in the first place. Learn from the best and make changes in the real world. If you want to find out more about how to do that click below:

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

An Anonymous freelancer on Mahalo writes: Are you tired of sitting at home alone? Is there a lot going on, right now, that you would like to get involved with? It would be a shame for you to miss ...

This writer had some good tips to share; probably because he or she actually did some research to write this one. But, here are some of the best ones:

1) Don’t Rush It and think you will change over night.
2) Make the first move when you see someone you want to talk to.
3) Increase your vocabulary to make conversations flow easier.
4) Find Out Who You Are…by talking to yourself.
5) Be True To Yourself; basically don’t try to change your personality to fit in.
6) Look Your Best At All Times
7) Tone Your Body
8) Learn How to Dance
9) Go Out More Often
10) Keep a Social Schedule
www.mahalo.com/how-to-become-more-social

Number five really doesn’t make sense because you’re changing from an unsocial person to a social person, but anyway. This is the best article that I ran across amongst the wealth of knowledge available to you on the Web. If feel like this was a good appetizer and you need more detail to really make a turn around check out the website below.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

On 43 things two anonymous posters write:
Can anyone give me some tips on how to become more sociable? I seem to be spending all my time alone, or with the same small group of people. ...
www.43things.com/things/view/.../become-more-sociable
I have a boyfriend now, and i'm scared he will break up with me if i dont become more sociable with him. i dont have any classes with him but i do see him ...
www.43things.com/things/view/3497/become-more-social
I guess the most important thing to learn is that there are thousands of people that want to learn how to become more social. It sure helps to get tips from others that are overcoming the same issue. If you’re not happy with your social life, it’s up to you to change that. Oh, and if you’re like the first person your problem is simply learning how to get out of your routine and comfort zone. If you’re like the second person here, you need to recognize that you’re making assumptions that are probably not true and do what makes you happy. If you’re young and confused about how this all works, or if you just want more tips for how to improve your social life, click on the link.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

Jason Ward writes: How to Become More Social. A lot of people in todays society are unsocial, held-back, and don't really know how to talk with others, or how to become friends with strangers, follow this tutorial for help on overcoming your shyness.

He suggests rising above the personalities we are born with; he suggests that you make an effort to reach out to people – take the first step; value yourself, treat yourself with the much needed respect that you deserve; push yourself to do something out of the ordinary; and finally he says to think of this as the ultimate challenge.
http://www.ehow.com/..._become-social.html

I’m sure you didn’t learn anything that you haven’t heard before. It’s a shame that articles like this end up on the front page of Google because the domain is an authority site. What was all that techno babble I just said? The article is bad, but there is enough content on the site that it doesn’t matter. If you want to learn actual tips from someone that went through the transformation from a shy person to a social person, then check out the site below.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

John Writes: 4 Simple Guidelines to Becoming More Social While Maintaining Your Success .... As soon as your clients become friends they will want some leniency on ...
1) Sleep at night, work during the day.
2) Get out of the house at all costs.
3) Take classes or attend conference related to your work.
4) Make your clients your friend
freelanceswitch.com/.../4-simple-guidelines-to-becoming-more-social-while-maintaining-your-success/

Now is John the expert on this, probably not. He’s a freelancer which probably means he read a few articles just like I’m doing and summarizing the best of what he came across. You know what’s even better than just looking for the top search results on Google about the subject. Asking all the people in your social circle how they do it best and sharing it.
Click the link to find out what I’m talking about.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

How can i become more social? | Be More Outgoing
Anonymous writes: ... How can i become more social? im 20 years old and im just tired of not beeng social, i dont even have many friends and the ones i do have ... i want to be social so i can meet new people, maybe even get a gf …
www.bemoreoutgoing.com/be-more.../how-can-i-become-more-social

If you sound anything like this poor guy you owe it to yourself to click on the link in this text and see what this book is all about. Because some guys got it and some guys don’t, and wouldn’t you like to learn from a guy that didn’t have it but definitely does have it now?

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

Where Does a Geek Find a Social Life? Answering this question was unavoidable since there were many geeks that contributed to this how to guide on building a social life and being awesome in general.

GO HERE: HTTP://WWW.HOWTOBECOMESOCIAL.COM

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dating advice hot online how social outgoing extrovert <--yeah those aren't mine. I know you're gonna feel me on this one. Why doesn't YouTube have a character countdown like Twitter if it's going be having this 'error' description is too long business. Booo!

Play or Go Home!

2010-07-09T18:46:00.000-07:00

So, I have recently started embracing my competitive nature. I was trying to be the everyone wins, let's all collaborate and be friends, type of person for the last couple of months because of a video that Ann Sieg made about making your competitors your partners. I didn't really know who I was. But, I just realized that deep down inside I want to win. I want nothing more than to get to the top of my company and gloat, rub it into all the losers' faces.

Competition is good. It encourages innovation. And just because you're competing doesn't mean that you can't collaborate.

And you know what? Nothing excites me more than a good game. In the video I kind of share what's been happening to me as I challenge more and more network marketers that are internet network marketers using video. I have the excitement and passion I had about the LoTR films when they came out years ago. I was a ridiculous, scary, stalkerish fan girl of Orlando Bloom. I've been trying to recreate that passion since 2005 when it sort of fizzled out.

I was hard core. I was a leader of fangirl mayhem. We organized ourselves and went to his premieres; we befriended his mom to make sure he got our gifts; we made fan art and t-shirts, and were planning to buy some piece of property and name it after him. Anyway, Colin Wright was the first one to tell me that I was a type A, competitive type. Everyone has called me the timid, passive type. It's funny he could see that, though I was in denial at that moment. Artists, like me, hate any sort of label.

So, I guess I have him to thank for being a part of the reason that I am on my A-game. Play or Go Home!

Three Things You Didn't Know About (Aviara)

2010-05-21T22:32:00.000-07:00

I'm having so much fun with this video marketing training. I have to right about it. I have definitely learned to laugh at myself, that's for sure. So this is my first official video telling people about Aviara. I have Henry Weinacker to thank for telling me about the business. Besides the fact that I want to be a part of anything that he's involved with because he's just a great person all around, the more I learn about the company and founders the more I am sure that I will be around for a long time.

I joined as a founding distributor at the highest level and now I am studying and implementing online marketing for mlms, also called internetworkmarketing, pretty cool huh? My goals for this year are to get my passive income up to 25K a month. That seems small to many Internet marketers, but it will be my beginning. I have live trainings and webinars on the brain as well since I know that I only got to this point from massive amounts of personal development.

I have dedicated a new YouTube Channel to Aviara, so you can learn more about Aviara there.

1 Weight Loss Rule

2010-05-05T13:00:00.000-07:00

Image by anroir via Flickr

I'm so excited about this that I have to make another post about it. I made a post about it a couple of months back in my official blog, and now I am writing about it again because the change in my confidence is monumental. Oh, what you can do when you are confident. You expect people to work with you, and when they don't, you assume there is something wrong with them. When you aren't confident, you hang your head and say, yeah I guess I'm nobody important.

Okay, so ever since I started following one weight loss rule that I learned from Tim Ferriss a couple of months back. I have literally seen the pounds effortlessly disappear. I don't exercise regularly, and when I do it's normally for 10 minutes at a time. So, this is great. I'm down from 137 to 122, and I'm finally starting to my abs! 15 pounds of fat gone without hitting the gym, and I do use a body fat monitoring scale. If you know anything about weight loss, then you know that those last 10 pounds are the hardest to lose, and I've done it, and today I finally felt like I had a beach worthy bod.

I haven't been to the beach in years.

Even though I wasn't overweight. My little frame just would not store the fat in the right places. If I had a bunch of fat on my hips, thighs, and behind (pear shape), I would have been fine. But I have an apple shape. All the weight I gain goes right to my gut and inner thighs. Oh I also have to report that for the first time since middle school my thighs do not touch!

My sister calls me anorexic, but I honestly eat more than she does. I just avoid eating certain things as often as she does. She battles with her weight all the time and works out religiously. I know that she's trying to bring me down, but I just can't feel bad. For the first time in my life I feel like I am thin and fit. I've had this goal for so long, and I have Timothy Ferriss and his personal research to thank for finally having achieved it. Oh so, what was the one rule I followed? Avoid eating white things.

MSG

2010-03-17T20:13:00.000-07:00

This is irony I guess. I wanted to be able to get more accomplished in a shorter period of time so yesterday I bought this Kikkoman Instant Tofu Miso Soup (Soybean Paste Soup with Tofu). I bought it so I would not have to spend time cooking this week while I was getting my final projects done for this...uh...wonderfully difficult course I'm in at the moment. I read the ingredients, mostly good stuff, hmmm...monosodium glutamate (MSG). I did not think it could have that much of this killer substance in it, and besides I had also bought a box of my other old friend from undgrad years, Greens+ Natural EnergyBars. These are the two foods that I basically lived off of during my last semester of college.

Okay so I fired up the crock pot this morning, put in some extra spinach and the soup and had a little about 3 hours after breakfast. Two hours later I am inexplicably tired. It doesn't make sense. I've had 8.5 hours of sleep (much more than normal), a fresh breakfast and...uhhh the MSG got me. I couldn't stay awake. I had forgotten the feeling of extreme sluggishness since I avoid the unChinese food joints now. I think I must be extra sensitive to it because I avoid most additives period. So, I took a gamble and I lost...Big Time. I lost a couple of hours out of my work day from trying to save a couple of hours. Irony? And I'm out of my perfectly balanced Japanese Oolong tea or I would have caffiened up.

The Olympics of Entrepreneurship - Another Real-World Lifestyle Design Case Study

2010-02-21T13:07:00.001-08:00

The Olympics of Entrepreneurship - Another Real-World Lifestyle Design Case Study <--Link to the Press Release I Wrote.

The Behind the Scenes Story
I guess I should write about the day I met Colin Wright. Where to start? So, I had been asking Colin for a Skype interview since I first landed on his lifestyle design blog sometime in early January. I think that he put it off because he had a bug or something and I so I went on and interviewed some other "very professional" people. But, this all worked out perfectly because I had two freelancers working on my "brand". One, who has oddly disappeared made a nice Twitter background for me. The other was designing covers for my eBooks. The eBook covers were an epic fail. I don't know why I didn't just go to a internet marketing forum, but I just had to try guru.

We had been emailing back and forth on when would be a convenient time when he mentioned his plans to see family in Florida. Of course my reaction was. Florida! You're coming to Florida! No way! So we planned for a live interview. And of course I had to go all out and stuff because he had just did an interview with the (*cough*selfish*cough) Mixergy guy. So, I said that I would probably do a press release. Now, I had been looking at press releases a possible marketing angle for another client who was like "No way, too pricey, nah uh!" But, it was just too enticing for me not to try after going through the sales presentation.

Right, so the day of, which was January 30th, I think...let me check...yeah no, it was the 29th. I just remember it being a Friday. I'm running late, I have no idea why, but I figure I can speed and get there in time. I get there like 5 or 6 minutes after the meeting time and I find out that Google has lead me to the wrong destination. I was supposed to be heading to the Coconut Point Mall in Estero, and I ended up at the Coconut Point gated community thing. So after driving around in circles for a couple of minutes I decide it's best to try to get help from Colin, and he's totally cool with me be lost and everything, but isn't really able to help me. Eventually I stop at a gas station and find out I'm 2 minutes away from the mall.

So I get there 30 minutes past the hour (and set meeting time) and then we go scouting for a good filming spot. Which brings me to my next great disaster, I have no idea how to use the camera I've brought. I borrowed it from my dad. And so Colin offers his digital camera and I'm like, "Um, are you actually offering to help me. That's insulting!" He calls me manly and then he helps me figure out the camera thing. I've brought along my handy dandy Flip as a backup, but of course there is no way to set it up to get the interview. And the final thing that went horribly wrong was, I brought my brother's ancient Dell from like 2004 because mine was down with a virus. There was no outlet nearby, and wouldn't you know, the Dell refused to turn on without an external power source. And Colin has to come to the rescue again by digging up the interview questions from his email using his iPod...ah classic.

Pre-interview/My Machismo-ness

It's a beautiful day. The same people keep walking by to try to hear what we're talking about. (*When I was watching the footage I noticed that I kept staring at the people and even glared at a few of the girls. *ashamed*) After the interview Colin says his day is open, and of course my day really isn't because I have final papers to write. So, I insist that he get this doughnut that he had mentioned and that was pretty much it.

Doughnut Eating Clip

But, Colin just ignited me with his passion for life, sense of humor, and endless energy. So, now what do I do? Well, naturally I promote him because he's given me a reason to believe that I can achieve whatever I set out to do. I don't know why he deals with unprofessional people like me he was so polished and educated sounding.

Interesting Fact: One of the top search terms leading to his blog is "gentleman and scholar".
Another Interesting Fact: Colin's hottness is undisputed across three different ethnicities.

More rambling? Why not, since no one reads this blog. YouTube opens up to long videos again and I'm all happy and such, but I still have not been able to get the whole interview up because it's so frigging large. So, I say RIP to HD, the rest of my interviews will be low resolution.

Clip from the Ren Men Show

2010-02-16T07:34:00.000-08:00

I love the energy of the guys from Ren Men, but even more important is their great content. I had found them a while ago from Timothy Ferriss' blog, but I just found their official blog only yesterday. And today, they talked about memory. It's just funny to me that this was something that I knew on a gut level, but was never covered in school. In fact as I'm completing my Master's in teaching it's funny that this is nowhere in out textbooks. They encourage hands-on to a point, but for the most part the classroom is all theory. What a disservice to our youth.

Berkeley Hosts a Lifestyle Design Class

2010-02-08T10:54:00.000-08:00

Berkeley is hosting a lifestyle design class?

First I was a little sad that I do not live in the area because I would want to go just to meet the other "students" of lifestyle design. Genius Money Marketing is hosting the class. And can you guess the textbook?

You guessed it The 4-Hour Workweek..

The price is $550, so the content better be good.
The Times are: March 06, 2010 - April 24, 2010 - Weekly on Saturdays - 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM
The Craigslist posting did not ID the teacher, but I looked him up through a link to TeachStreet.
The teacher, Aaron Sparenberg, is apparently a lifestyle coach. Anyone heard of this guy before?

Colin Wright - How to get punched in the face

2010-02-02T20:09:00.000-08:00

This Friday I will be in Orlando, FL the "annual?" FollowOne Conference.
Last Friday I was in Estero, FL interviewing this guy, Colin Wright.
It's interesting to see where I will be next Friday considering that I
have a week off of school.

Colin is a...well...pretty uniquely-awesome guy.
He blogs at Exile Lifestyle dot com, and besides
his travel stories being odd and interesting, he
happens to be quite the writer. He's got some
skills. Check out his lifestyle design blog.

New Year's Resolutions - Cool Tool

2009-12-31T03:03:00.000-08:00

Image by Getty Images via Daylife

Okay I'll make this quick.
Yesterday I discovered a cool new tool to help you manage your "To Do" list online
It's called teuxdeux, you can hook yourself up at http://teuxdeux.com

One thing I know is that if you have big dreams and goals like I do then you gotta break them down into 'milestones' (significant steps along the way) and then into smaller projects. Timothy Ferriss recommends breaking down those projects into 5 min steps and then putting the steps on your "To Do" list.

...oh one more thing he uses a tool called eggtimer; it's at http://e.ggtimer.com

Happy New Year!!!

Hey, if this post helped you share it. You just might change their life.

A Reverse Budget

2009-12-29T22:50:00.000-08:00

Image by thinkpanama via Flickr

Okay...so I did something rather interesting this month. I wrote out a budget. Oh how I loathe the word, but the budget was bloated. Basically, I wrote the budget based on projected income or (future profits). I made the usually list of things I will absolutely not be spending money on, and here at the end of the month I see that something remarkable has happened.

My income has expanded to meet the budget. I think that I will miss the budget by +550, but I have about a $4000 increase in expenditures...that's exciting. These last few days I've been trying to meet the budget (spend more money in the business category) and I've ended up purchasing several things:

How to Accomplish Impossible Goals by. Hulbert Lee http://frombottomup.com/ebook/
The 4-Hour Workweek, Expanded and Updated: Expanded and Updated, With Over 100 New Pages of Cutting-Edge Content by. Timothy Ferriss http://www.amazon.com
The Internet Entrepreneur Club by. The Internet Marketing Center http://www.marketingtips.com
and *drum roll please*
From Now to eBook by...uh uh...some random ad I clicked on Google.
and eBook Starter Software by...well um...Google Search.

Ah My Severely Neglected Blog

2009-12-23T00:52:00.000-08:00

Long Live the Holidays.

So I finally got my "official blog" up at liscarpenter.com.
After years of being cheap (not wanting to pay for hosting), I bit the bullet and went with hosting. Thanks the Scott Stratten sharing his pain about not being prepared for success I decided that it would probably cost me more in the long run to go with wordpress.com instead of wordpress.org.

Yay! Now I just need to get some videos up. It will primarily be a video blog of interviews with Internet marketers and the like, so I am not sure how often I will be posting. I tell you. There is nothing that quite gets my blood rushing like chatting with an entrepreneur...well there is cave spelunking.

Live Journal

2009-11-27T12:34:00.001-08:00

This is basically a live journal. I'm sharing some thoughts, insights, wisdom, from working online. Right now I am working on this fundraiser on Facebook for some dear friends. I have an issue though. I elected to participate in their offline version of the fundraiser and I realized that I am just not good at asking for donations for any cause. I brought the brochures to my house of worship and I never found the right time to talk about them with the pastors.

I have developed a solid plan and I have been praying about what to give people in exchange for donations. I know that sort negates the term donation, but when they serve the hungry I want to serve them, you know.

Writing this has really helped. It has clarified for me what I can give. I am a writer. I can offer writing or editing services. I guess a sort of coupon, I owe you, and I will contact you for the first six months of next year to encourage you to collect or strategize with you on how to best market something. This will be good. I just need to print out the sheets now.

Truly Truly Humbling Thing

2009-11-20T00:05:00.000-08:00

Now, I have not read the book Conversations with God, but I have conversations with God, quite frequently. And this is going to be quick. I had to come to the recognition that I am not that great. God is great in me. So, I was recently talking to one of my classmates about praying a lot while doing my school work. I mean I pray before I read the textbook that God would open my understanding. I pray before I participate in the online discussions because I truly feel that I am not qualified to be contributing to scholarly discussions about pedagogy or advanced grammar or whatever the topic may be. And I excel at it. And I consistently perform at an outstanding level.

Now yesterday morning I had just finished watching the Joseph Prince broadcast at 5 AM, which I have got into the habit of watching, and I heard God say to me that today He would show me that I was His. I expected something mindbending and extraordinary, but it was simply sharing with my classmate my how I thrive despite my inadequacies because I trust in God.

So I have to turn this to the point now, I have been working at this selling stuff online thing since 2002. And the progress that I made has not been any worthy of recognition. I did have this thing about not really wanting to be seen at first that I had to get over, but I my attitude has always been I'm amazing at this, I was born to do this, this is my ideal line of work, and it has come to nothing. So, this is what God had to say about that: "If you would have asked.,.." Basically, I was so confident that I was qualified that I could do the job that I excluded God from it. I did not ask for his aid or wisdom with any of it, and now I say:

The devil has your mind when you are trying to be self reliant;
he knows how limited you are and how unlimited God is.

Sales and Marketing Woohoo!

2009-11-12T22:21:00.000-08:00

I have to talk about a recent decision I made to join another network marketing company. I think it's the fifth one I joined, but this time my reasons are a little different. If nothing else, my level of skill is a lot different. So I joined Aviara. It's still in the pre-launch stages, and the main reason I joined is because one of my friends co-founded the company.

I suppose I am calling him a friend when he's more of an acquaintance that I really look up to. I used to work for the same direct sales company as this guy many moons ago. He was a celebrity in the company, the top sales rep many times, and gave little pep talks to the rest of us about building your business right. He always exuded positive energy. In fact, he has the personal motto: "I bet you can't catch me not smiling." Pretty neat, huh?

Now, I am a person of faith, if you've had the opportunity to read any of my other entries you might have noticed that. So I want to tell about the strange occurrence that caused me to trust Henry with any business decision. You see, I had gone to Robert Allen's Wealth Retreat in Orlando, Florida in 2007, and I was called up on stage by Marshall Sylver to learn how to eat fire. Directly after, I had overcharged my credit card to go to his Turning Point seminar. I had learned about the power of mentorship; it seemed that all these wildly success people had one. Les Brown, another one of my role models, had a coach that he hired through Nightingale-Conant. He attributed his biggest successes to this coach pushing him to do things that he didn't think he could, like writing a book.

Wow, sort of went off on a tangent there. So, I prayed the night before I supposed to be flying out to Los Angeles for this Turning Point Seminar for a mentor. I prayed earnestly. And then, I saw Henry, in the Fort Myers airport of all places, going to Dallas-Ft. Worth for some business. The funny thing was that I could not remember his name. For some reason I kept thinking that his name was William, but it didn't matter that much. I spent forever talking myself up, Just Over There! You Know Him! What's wrong with you. Argh! This is not the time to be shy. So it took me a while to get over myself. When I finally walked over and started to speak, "Are you..." thankfully, he cut in before I had the chance to call him the wrong name. He was just smiling, "Yeah, what company do you know me from." I said, "Cutco." He was amazed. I think my last year working for Cutco was 2004. I can't imagine when his was.

We didn't get to chat long because I had wasted so much time yelling at myself in my head. But, he said that we would chat more after the flight. You better believe I hunted him down after the flight. I think that he probably had forgotten about our chat because he was fully engaged chatting with another guy from the Dallas area that he had been sitting with.

I asked him for an interview. I did not expect to be in the frame. After all, it was the worse possible day for me. I thought that I would miss my flight because I was running late...turns out it was delayed. I didn't even have time to shower; no makeup, no contacts. I was wearing a large school sweat shirt. I wore the one from Oxford to hang onto my last drops of dignity.

Here's the vid:

There was one thing that caught my attention after the interview. What?! He's a Christian? I guess I had prejudged him. Now approximately two years since our "chanced meeting" at the airport I get this email about him starting a company. My thoughts at first we that the health food market is saturated, but then I thought about Starbucks. When they began the coffee market was arguably saturated.

It's not what you sell. It's how you market yourself and position your product. Besides I haven't been really excited about something in years. Here I am in graduate school to become a teacher and the whole time I'm thinking that I just add this degree to my collection of accomplishments, but this is not it.

Cutco, the direct sales position, working from referrals, moving from house to house, was the longest position that I have held. I say sales is in my blood. Moreover, I never really wanted a job so I'm taking this opportunity to do some sales and marketing again! Stay tuned.

It's Either Rant or Forever Hold My Peace

2009-11-09T21:18:00.000-08:00

So, I was staying with a sister in Lakeland this weekend, a friend of a friend and I have to share a few unpleasantries. The first night was cool, everything was great. I found out that the lady's husband was a like-minded soul that had discovered that working for a living is pretty much useless. Then, the second night, a night in which we were both particularly tired. We stayed up talking about nothing. When I say nothing I have to point out a few things about women in business so that men understand.

1) A woman may be beautiful but she craves for you to acknowledge her know-how more than her beauty.
2) Women are becoming more and more independent and hate being told about dumb choices as much as men so mention their strong points.
3) A sure way to cause a "professional" woman not to want to do business with you is to try to work in freebies by stroking her ego.

I did learn a few cool things this weekend, however, like you should have a committee of people to advise you in various areas of life (physical, spiritual, business, personal, etc.). I had a similar idea a while back, but I emphasized having a coach for each area. I suppose a committee could be just as effective.

I learned that optimum health occurs when your body is in an alkaline or neutral state. In other words stay away from eating too much high acid foods (which is pretty much my whole diet).

And I also learned that staying in communion with God, through praying in the Spirit is one of the most freeing things a person can do. A person that is constantly communicating with God does not have time to worry.

Couldn't resist mate.

2009-11-02T21:12:00.000-08:00

So...I gotta give a shout out to Scott Stratten, creator of UnMarketing.
I was successfully lured into his product funnel yesterday with his
skilled unmarketing?

Scott teaches relationship building with your pre-customer base. He
primarily resides on Twitter with his lovely wife and kids, just kidd'n.
Can't wait to see what he has ready for us.

The reason I signed up was because I share a similar belief of his,
although I did not have the statistical data that he had to back it up.
85% of the time when someone buys a course they don't even begin it.
That's crazy! Isn't it? I mean I thought it was more like 50 or 60%.
I have been working on my ebook/course/guide, yeah you know whatever,
for about two months now, and the reason why I have not released it
is for that exact same reason.

I am going to make sure that I am able to dedicate some time to the
people that buy my product. I will to make sure that they finish it or
are at least nagged reasonably enough for them to have finished it.
Did I mention Scott had amazingly low prices for what he's offering?
I'm not an affiliate or anything.

Here's the link: http://www.un-marketing.com/6weeks/

It was so easy

2009-10-31T21:15:00.000-07:00

I just posted about this in a Facebook note. I was in church this evening and when I arrived it was something interesting. Not may people were there because it was Halloween I suppose. For some reason when I arrived I decided that I would remember grace. I would remember that God really wanted to be near us more than we desired to be with God.

I took this attitude into the worship service. And that was my entire focus the entire time. Man I'm so lucky. And I know that God has something special for us because we chose to meet with Him over meeting with friends or watching television, surfing the Net, ehem.

There is a point at which my spirit just begins to pray in worship. I just like to think that when we are in the presence of God (corporately) and we are worshiping Him that everyone's gifts are just activated, the singers sing more beautifully, the pastor preaches with more power, and the intercessors pray more emphatically--knowing that our requests are heard.

It was one of those instances in which I was just praying emphatically for everyone in the room. And it was wonderful to have God quicken or wake up every cell in my body again, but then HE spoke. I had just started reading this book (a self-help) book that my dad had recommended. I had went through the beginning exercises on finding your life's purpose and I was fairly confident that I knew what I was supposed to be doing: Traveling the world and going to the most renowned spas, right?

About a month prior God had showed me that I was supposed to be in music. So, basically HE had given me a hint. I guess HE trusted that I would sniff out the hint and figure things out or at least ask HIM for more direction on the thing...of course I didn't; I was too busy mirroring the people that I admired.

Then, HE told me just as plain as day that I was supposed to be writing songs. It was like, Duh! That makes perfect sense. And though all the hints were right in front of me I would have never seen it. Trust me. HE gave me a clue and I ended up going through yet another self-help book for answers. Where are the GOD-help books? I swear that the Purpose Driven Life didn't have this pointer or there would be no purpose for the book, period.

Now to the title of this post "It was so easy". It was so easy to come into God's presence and receive from HIM when I realized that it is exactly what HE wants us to do. HE died to give us right access to HIM.

This can't be safe...it's radical grace teaching

2009-10-28T23:10:00.001-07:00

I've been on a two day Joseph Prince marathon. It wasn't planned. Guess I'm just addicted to the Truth. Wait no. The word that we need to continuously draw from God sunk in. I am signing up as a partner. I am infinitely more happy and content in my salvation in Christ after being introduced to this minister's teachings last year. More please:)

www.josephprince.org/

Hi Fives, Daps, and Pounds!

2009-10-26T20:59:00.000-07:00

Just woke up from a nap feeling kinda silly and decided that I wanted to slap my dad hi five. My resisted. Just couldn't come up to my level at first, but once he discovered that it was the only way to get me to go away he put up his hand and I slapped one on there with a victorious "YEAH!" He shook his head as I excited the room with my sleeping mom next to him.

Next vitim? My older brother. He's a tough one because he's "cool". He explained that when anyone says "Hi five" in his presence he says, "Who's gay?" and that person will have their hand raised. He said that it was pretty funny around drunk people. I repeated asked him to break his coolness code and slap me five. I told him it would make me feel good and that I knew he really wanted to. Didn't work. Then I remembered "daps," that's right...that's what the cool people do, right? So I said, "Hmm well my pastor does daps." Then he slowly and reluctantly moved his fist in and sealed the deal. Of course I let out another ridiculous, Richard Simmons sounding "YEAH!" and told him to do again and to put some speed on his fist. He said that I was enjoying it too much, and it was true. What's more fun than convincing people to do something that you know they'll enjoy but just need a cheerleader to help them along? (Mouthfull!!!) Coaching. That's what I do.

Google Likes My Blog:)))))))))))))

2009-10-26T04:12:00.000-07:00

So I had heard from Simon Leung that Google is Google's best fan
about a month ago. What do I think now? Definitely. Back to my
petty little reason for starting this blog in the first place, as I am
writing this there is still another Lis Carpenter on the front
page of Google, my front page.

Laugh. It's meant to be humorous, but Internet marketers see it
as a massive failure to have others dominating their names. I don't
have people posting to my blogs for me or posting original Tweets
mind you, but I do have a lot more content out there than this other
Lis Carpenter, and I plan to keep it that way.

Oh, Google likes this blog for some reason. None of my other blogs
show up on page one. I don't know the code, but I'm happy as a clam:)

Watch out because next month, more money is coming in. More money
means more advertising. More advertising means more money. Three
spots on Google's first page left. If I do this right I should be selling ad
space on my pages not competing:)

Paulo Sousa Youtube Singer Is A Nice Way To Unwind

2009-10-23T23:34:00.000-07:00

I think I should talk a little about how superficial I am. I think I've watched all of Paulo Sousa's covers on Youtube, probably. I could easily say that I've watched at least 24 hours of his content in the space of a week. I should be ashamed, but he's really good.

Now here's the superficial part, he got a hair cut sometime at the beginning of summer, mid-summer, something like that, and then I just didn't watch his videos for a long time. Now his hair's grown back some and so I'm making a blog post about him:)

WARNING HIS STYLE, SMILE, OR SUAVE PORTUGUESE-NESS MAY BE SLIGHTLY ADDICTING!

Paulo's Personal Blog:
http://paulosousa.iblogger.org

Find Paulo in Your Favorite Spots:
http://paulonuno.hi5.com
http://twitter.com/PauloSousaYT
http://www.facebook.com/paulosousayt
http://myspace.com/PauloSousaYt
http://www.youtube.com/paulosousayt

I'll Never Learn All the Words to Say...

2009-10-23T18:18:00.000-07:00

One of the reasons why I began to learn Chinese
was because I wanted to communicate with you.
Thank you for encouraging me.

Azusa Pacific Chapel Podcast

2009-10-21T02:04:00.000-07:00

Today I was just going through my "to do" list and adding my school to all my social networks was on there. I also noticed that my school was on iTunes U @ www.apu.edu/itunes. I went to the page and noticed that one of the most popular downloads was this sermon by Francis Chan, pastor of Cornerstone Baptist Church in Simi Valley, California.

Everything he said was so real. I just had to share these two quotes from what he said.

"I don't think there's so many unbelievers in America because they don't hear about Jesus. I think it's because they don't see Jesus."

"Fight for humility. Fight for obscurity."
-Francis Chan

He was talking about discipling being the model that God set in the New Testament and how so many people are afraid to say, "Follow me as I follow Christ." He also was talking about how much God desires to bless people but He abhors the proud. As soon as we start to do things in our name or when we think that we have accomplished things out of our worthiness or intelligence, when in truth He is the source, the flow of blessings stop.

It was a timely message for me because I've been a little proud lately, and I've always been arrogant. He talked about how selfish people aren't very happy, and I had decided to be selfish out of the teachings of business people instead of Jesus. We can really stray from being Jesus when we drink waters (learn) from everywhere.

Higher Education

2009-10-08T00:27:00.000-07:00

Knowledge increases sorrow.
-"I'll be the judge of that."

I'm Lyrically Inclined

2009-10-05T03:24:00.000-07:00

So I just could not rest knowing some of my best lyrics were buried in one of the boxes in my room. Just as fate would have it, it was in the last box that I looked in.
I had the file saved on my computer before it bombed and had to be wiped clean.
Hemmm it's funny that my best work is to two handsome British dudes...

Sampson's Sweat

So many fighting to be like him just to get ahead
So many quitting 'stead of putting in the work instead
Rejection's on the road
But stand up and be bold
Everything's waiting for you; be the one to talk ahold.

A thought, a wish, a dream, to make it's really all you need,
New places, faces, and the way you wish that you could be.
Don't look at him or me.
Don't wait for them to see,
Just look within yourself, 'cause you're the one that sets you free.

So now you're on the road to meet your better destiny.
And you're infected with the message of this melody.
It's always been your time.
Get focused, set your mind.
And you'll achieve just what you planned so go on blow their minds!

Let it out now.
Let it out now.
Just count yourself back in and this could be your new beginning.

Let it out now.
Let it out now.
Just put all of it in and this may be your new beginning.

That burning passion's got you moving, got you going strong.
Everyone's pushing you to step back, not to move along.
You've got your mission set.
You're not the one to fret.
It's time to let 'em know that you are not the one to quit.

You got the mind, you got the heart, your got the winner's edge.
No nagging doubts or stabbing jeers are bringing down your head.
You fight with all your soul.
You're on a winner's roll.
It's time to give it all you got and let the rest unfold.

The battle's on and you're the judge, you battle with yourself.
So many watching, hating, waiting just to see you fail.
When the pressures on.
You only hear your song.
You kill it every time. So all you(r) haters sing along/move along.
(You kill it every time. Yeah go on Sampson prove 'em wrong.)
***THE ONE LYRIC I JUST CAN'T SETTLE ON***

Let it out now.
Let it out now.
Just count yourself back in and this could be your new beginning.

Let it out now.
Let it out now.
Just put all of it in and this may be your new beginning.

Let it out now.
Let it out now.
When you fight to win it; it will be your new beginning.

-Dedicated to George Sampson
(I just posted this on George's fan site, hope he gets to read it. I found a
beat on Shadowville.com called Perspiration that's nice and kinda goes
with it. It's producer is Slantize, and the name of the track is Perspiration.)

----This One Has a CraZy tune to It---
An Ode to Orlando

There must be something in the way you smile,
Or treasures unveiled in those thespian eyes--
Racy rhythm in the way you move--
That fills up my heart with forgotten song.

Resonant breaths give a heaving tune,
Awakening crests like a field in like a field in bloom.
All my world yields 'til this round unwinds
That fills up my mind sounding all t' day long.

True maestro strike notes from the starry skies,
For only your song reflects from my eyes.
Measures you've made without practiced call.
And it's been so long since I sang at all.
Yes it's been so long (hold) since I sang at all.

-Dedicated to Orando Bloom.
(I sent it to his fanmail address ages ago. I still feel
like it's my crowning lyrical masterpiece:)

Dear God

2009-09-29T23:00:00.000-07:00

Dear God,

I've been really good this month and I was wondering if you would do me a favor. I'm launching this awesome site and starting to sell this special report for making cash on demand from the Web, and I was just wanted to ask that you bless it so that I can feed lots of hungry orphans in Africa...

----

Ever prayed something like that?

----

Okay, honestly Lord, since You know my thoughts then You will know that the reason that I want everything to be prosperous is so that I can show off in New York and buy lots of needless stuff for A...'s birthday. So now that we're clear and honest and everything:)

In Jesus' name I pray Amen.

Google Yourself

2009-09-29T19:23:00.000-07:00

So, it's Tuesday night I just randomly decided to Google myself and found a lot of abandoned social network profiles. Then, I noticed something else; something that had not been there a couple of months ago the last time I Googled myself. Another Lis Carpenter taking up two spaces on my front page of Google. Yes, I said "MY" front page. Lis Carpenter M..... I won't mention the whole name, don't want her to gain in any more popularity. Does this sound childish?

I was irritated that this lady had landed a first page ranking after two months by starting a Wordpress site so I started a Blogger with my name in the URL. Looks like there are so few of us Lises with a "s". For that I'm thankful. Guess I need to make more social profiles...Hmmm...MyBlogLog, Bebo, Technorati...there are a few big ones that I'm not on yet.

I had forgotten what Plaxo was, and I was surprised that LinkedIn was first. Facebook, the site that I spend hours on every week was not even on the first page. How disappointing.